Toxic In Toxic Out
Guilt slingers are control freaks. Be wise and steward your mind and soul with diligence. No matter where I go, the business sector, the church arena, dealing with families (including my own), there is always a rich display in culture for guilt slinging manipulators. You can always spot them. They will use your emotions to manipulate and are excellent at slinging guilt to try and control. They will do whatever it takes to make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. This presence is TOXIC. With guilt manipulators, anything is fair game and they will use, family, friends, position, reputation to cause guilt to settle upon you. This emotional manipulator uses many tools of division and judgmental control over others, to feed and fuel their lust for power. They are weak and the devil uses people like this in many sectors, whether you are faith believing or not. Emotional manipulators get what they want through strategic and tactical manipulation. Another powerful emotion they use is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is great at being (and oftentimes appears to be) the perfect victim and martyr. They will always operate to set atmospheres to orchestrate an appearance of support, care for and nurture. Emotional manipulators are crafty, divisive and cunning. They seldom fight their own fights but appear like a "victim" or "savior" in a situation, and here's where it gets crazy, the thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! The healthy way is to STAY CLEAR and MAKE IT A POINT OF NOT fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. Then you are only enabling, which is just as codependent and unhealthy. You can love and support GUILT FREE and NOT be manipulated into feeling like you have not "been enough", or "done enough" to get the manipulator's approval and acceptance. Choose to steward your soul in the fear of God, and love with sincerity and in truth....and GUILT FREE~!! - Donna Scott
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